Relationships

Perspective Through the Holidays

December 19, 2011
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Last year at this time I wrote an article entitled Holiday Depression, addressing the fact that for many people this is a difficult time of year.  Check that article out if you feel it is relevant to your life. This year I want to address how we can actively have perspective around the holidays.  What [...]

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Letting Go of Your Partner’s Addiction

November 6, 2011
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Term: I’m going to use the term “addicted relationship” to mean when one person has an addiction and the other does not. Being in a relationship with someone who has any sort of addiction can be downright exhausting and maddening.  I want to address an aspect of what happens in many relationships where addiction is [...]

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Relationships for Adults

July 18, 2011
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One area of relationships that I tend to help clients pay attention to is their own self in the relationship. We can often become quite preoccupied with what the other person is doing wrong that we miss our own ability and power to either do something about it, or not let it affect us so [...]

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I Don’t Love You Anymore

January 4, 2011
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“I don’t love you anymore,” is a phrase that gets thrown around either in the middle of a deteriorating relationship or at the end. One person does not FEEL that they love the other because of a handful of reasons so they express this. They do not feel drawn to, or close to that person [...]

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Addiction in Relationships

November 20, 2010

  I work with couples that are trying to mend their relationships after or during the impact of an addiction. There is a typical dance that happens in many of these relationships that does not actually help the relationship deal with the addiction. More so, it does not help the person who is not addicted [...]

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Love as Faculty

August 24, 2010

When we think of love and relationships what do we think of mostly? Experiencing love. Finding love. Being loved. At our deepest levels we ask ourselves, “Am I lovable?” This question can bring fear and insecurity. It can also bring selfishness. Two people in a relationship conflict often get tangled over how the other does [...]

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Boundaries with Addictive Behaviors

July 20, 2010

I’ve written a lot about having compassion toward those struggling with addiction and that we need to remove a lot of the moral judgment. This perspective comes mostly from the actual process of addiction, not necessarily all the behaviors that might go along with certain addictive lifestyles. Although I believe that all struggling human beings [...]

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